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Habits That Make Loneliness and Depression Worse

Habits That Make Loneliness and Depression Worse

Joseph Bennett, Kate Motaung2026-07-18T05:00:35+00:00July 20th, 2026|Depression, Featured, Individual Counseling, Men’s Issues, Women’s Issues|

It’s perfectly normal to sometimes feel alone, vulnerable, and in need of connection, support, and validation. Many people go through seasons of feeling this way until their situation changes, and they find the help they need. However, others seem to live their lives in a constant state of loneliness and depression, forever frustrated that they can’t seem to connect with anybody, and clueless as to how to change. Loneliness is not about being alone as much as it’s about feeling unseen and as if you don’t matter. This might have started in childhood, when your needs and wants were dismissed or overlooked by someone who should have been nurturing and loving you. It might be the result of recent trauma that has left you feeling as if you no longer know how to participate in society. Regardless of the root cause, you have likely picked up habits over the years that have contributed to your feelings of loneliness and depression. You are not forever stuck in this situation, but there is work to do if you are going to get out of it. When Loneliness and Depression Leave You Feeling Invisible If you are dealing with loneliness and depression, you might feel as if you are a ghost. It is as if people see through you and as if you make no real impression on anyone around you. This is an awful feeling that you can never get used to, no matter how many years you have experienced it, and you should never have to. People are made for connection, friendships, relationships, and interdependence. Life is supposed to be complicated and sometimes messy, busy, challenging, and comforting. We are meant to have our hearts broken and then mended, to have love and to give it, to provide support to [...]

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Navigating Conflict in the Workplace as a Manager

Navigating Conflict in the Workplace as a Manager

Ronald Jenkins, Kate Motaung2026-07-16T08:24:54+00:00July 16th, 2026|Featured, Individual Counseling, Men’s Issues, Professional Development, Relationship Issues, Women’s Issues|

Conflict is inevitable in any place where people meet together daily. In a workplace, agreements and progress coexist with personality clashes and other issues that you might feel unqualified to handle as a manager. No matter the amount of training and experience you have, you will face conflict in the workplace at some point, and you might struggle to deal with it. By nature, being in a management position means being a bridge between different departments and levels of leadership, as well as a bridge between workers when they are divided over an issue. While you might have departments like Human Resources and leaders in upper management for support, there will be times when you must step into the role of mediator. Part of your job is to ensure that conflict is resolved and progress can continue. Sometimes you will feel stretched beyond your capacity as you focus on your personal responsibilities and goals, while motivating, directing, and confronting workers in your department. Conflict in the workplace is not only common, but it is often normal and sometimes even healthy. It can show that people are affected by the events that take place in the workplace, and are unwilling to let go, give up, or walk away. On the other hand, conflict in the workplace will lead to bigger issues and deeper hurt unless you step in and take control of the situation. Mediating conflict is a learned skill that needs to be practiced regularly. Many managers face personal struggles in this area. If you are willing to be self-reflective and unbiased when approaching and confronting conflict, it will help. Always a Personal Issue Even when conflict in the workplace does not involve you and require your leadership, it still impacts you emotionally and mentally. You might not realize [...]

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Worry in the Bible: Moving from Fear toward Trust

Worry in the Bible: Moving from Fear toward Trust

Amanda Osowski, Kate Motaung2026-06-27T08:27:20+00:00June 29th, 2026|Anxiety, Featured, Individual Counseling, Spiritual Development, Women’s Issues|

Have you ever found yourself thinking about what could go wrong or what is going wrong right now? Maybe you are thinking about it repeatedly. You may find yourself feeling uneasy or being overly concerned about a situation or problem you are facing, but you find that all that thinking does not help you find peace or resolution. Instead, you end up feeling anxious and apprehensive, with the problem looming larger in your mind. That is what worry does to us. Our lives are full of situations and circumstances that are out of our control. Try as we might to make our lives predictable and safe, it is hardly possible to buffer ourselves from the challenges that inevitably come our way. All of us worry to some extent, even if we find ourselves worrying about different things. We can try to deal with our problems in many ways, but one thing is certain: worrying generally leaves us feeling anxious. We do not find peace that way. Even though we know this, when a bill comes in the mail, you start feeling poorly, when you are due for a checkup, or before an important event or deadline, you find yourself hopping onto that hamster wheel of worry. Why do people worry? Jesus said of worry, “Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life?” (Matthew 6:27, NIV) Worry is counterproductive because, instead of benefiting us, it negatively affects our mental and emotional health. Anxiety and worry also affect our bodies. But if worry is so counterproductive, why do we do it? Worrying feels like we are doing something. If you’re confronted by a problem, even if there is no immediate or obvious solution, we feel that by thinking about it repeatedly, we are at least doing something. The alternative seems like being passive, or it just feels uncomfortable. As Americans, we have a can-do [...]

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Finding Rest in God’s Presence When Job Burnout Threatens Your Peace

Finding Rest in God’s Presence When Job Burnout Threatens Your Peace

Amanda Osowski, Kate Motaung2026-04-21T14:23:58+00:00April 21st, 2026|Featured, Individual Counseling, Men’s Issues, Professional Development, Spiritual Development, Women’s Issues|

Job burnout does not come with a big announcement of its arrival. It simply creeps in and shows up in the morning when you cannot find a reason to care about the work that once excited you. It lives in the tension between what you know you should feel and the emptiness that has taken its place. When you realize you cannot keep going at your current pace, heaviness could start to settle within you, and you find yourself experiencing job burnout. Societal pressure surrounding work often creates an impossible standard. This standard dictates that you should be passionate and driven, but also maintain balance and be present. Society defines success as climbing the ladder and staying grounded. You are expected to pour everything into your career and still have meaningful relationships. This is a fast pathway to a destructive form of stress. When you lean on your faith during this time, it can offer you something different. It will help you understand who you are so that you do not become defined by what you do. It is a perspective that helps you reframe the demands of work. It opens your eyes to see the big picture about what it is to be human and how God has designed us to live. The Weight of Constant Performance and Job Burnout The modern workplace operates with the idea that more is always better. The more hours, output, and availability you give, the better your work performance appears. You might be considered high-achieving or an example of what “hard work” should look like. It is a system that treats human beings like machines that can be fine-tuned for maximum productivity, rather than the intelligent humans God has created. Exhaustion is often deeper than physical tiredness. You may feel like there’s a weariness that comes from constantly performing to prove your value. You question whether you are producing enough high-quality work. Job burnout stems [...]

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Bible Verses About Marriage: Being a Submissive Wife

Bible Verses About Marriage: Being a Submissive Wife

Maria Yanez, Kate Motaung2026-04-15T09:03:53+00:00April 15th, 2026|Couples Counseling, Featured, Marriage Counseling, Relationship Issues, Women’s Issues|

If you ever want to stir things up at your next Bible study, bring up the subject of how a wife should submit to her husband. One side of the discussion swears that the literal interpretation of the Scripture is the only true guideline. They passionately argue that to be a Christian wife, you must obey your husband in blind faith as you would Christ. They quote Scripture and detail how they believe it’s God’s will that they acknowledge their husband as the God-appointed head of the household. On the other side of the argument, the air thickens with skepticism and the fear of threat. They roll their eyes at the “old-fashioned” interpretation of the Scripture, like it’s a relic dug up from some ancient, dusty tomb. They argue that submission is erasure, a slow siphoning of their selfhood under the thin veil of piety. They discuss it, swirl the words carefully in their minds, and note the contradictions between lived reality and their understanding of the printed page. They feel tension between honoring their faith and honoring their own voice. And in the homes of both extreme proponents of the argument are likely marriages that are strained and unfulfilling. A traditionally submissive wife might feel unheard and not cherished. She might feel like her rights are violated or that she isn’t worthy of rights at all. She might feel that her opinion doesn’t matter because she couldn’t possibly measure up to her husband’s connection with God or knowledge of how the world works. The modern wife with an extreme feminist viewpoint might also struggle in her marriage, but for different reasons. She might take advantage of her husband’s weaknesses, making decisions that are self-serving or ignoring his needs entirely, leaving him feeling unseen and unappreciated. Both extremes miss the [...]

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Finding Support in Times of Suffering

Finding Support in Times of Suffering

Maria Yanez, Kate Motaung2026-05-15T09:04:29+00:00March 20th, 2026|Featured, Individual Counseling, Spiritual Development, Women’s Issues|

My God, my God, why have you forsaken me? Why are you so far from saving me, so far from my cries of anguish? – Psalm 22:1, NIV To the sufferer, these verses resonate with the deepest heartache one can experience. Whether it be a loss of a loved one, a betrayal, an illness, or one of the many pains of living in a broken world, this kind of pain can lead to one feeling isolated and alone, as if no one can truly understand the depths of the sorrow and pain. This type of pain can lead to feeling furthest from God, prompting the question, “Where are you?” Suffering in the Book of Job In times of suffering, when the feeling of isolation hits deepest, the book of Job can bring comfort. Job, described by God as “blameless and upright, a man who fears God and shuns evil” (Job 1:8), teaches the sufferer that tragedy doesn’t always stem from one’s own failure. Rather, even the righteous aren’t safe from the suffering of this sin-tainted world. However, this insight can also bring fear, because it means tragedy is unpredictable, which goes against the human desire for predictability and security. In attempts for security, the sufferer and even their close friends and family will make desperate attempts to make sense of the tragedy. Job laments and cries out to the Lord in various verses: Teach me, and I will be quiet; show me where I have been wrong. – Job 6:24, NIV Your hands shaped me and made me… Remember that you molded me like clay. Will you now turn me to dust again? – Job 10:8-12, NIV Why do the wicked live on, growing old and increasing in power? – Job 21:7, NIV In times of despair and chaos, it’s only [...]

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How to Handle Anger Problems Effectively

How to Handle Anger Problems Effectively

Stacy Davis, Kate Motaung2026-05-15T09:13:12+00:00February 26th, 2026|Anger Issues, Featured, Individual Counseling, Men’s Issues, Women’s Issues|

When the Lord created people, it was with a great purpose in mind. Then God said, “Let us make mankind in our image, in our likeness, so that they may rule over the fish in the sea and the birds in the sky, over the livestock and all the wild animals, and over all the creatures that move along the ground.” So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them. – Genesis 1:26-27, NIV God partners with humans to rule over creation and to nurture its fruitfulness. This is mind-blowing and an amazing reminder of who we were made to be. Part of how the Lord made us was with our emotions, and they play a role in how we are as we move about in the world. One of the challenges we face is how to manage those emotions well so that we continue to flourish, and our relationships remain healthy. Anger is one such emotion. Anger is a common emotion, and often when that anger is expressed, it’s not in the most positive or constructive way. If we are honest with ourselves, we also find ourselves getting angry without knowing why. When we do know why that anger may be unjustified or even seem petty. Anger plays an important role in our lives, but it can become a problem that undermines our ability to do what the Lord would have us do. The Place of Anger in Our Lives Is there a place for anger in our lives? Depending on who you ask, anger could be seen as something entirely out of place for a believer, as wholly appropriate and justified, especially when directed toward certain ends, or as an emotion that requires wisdom to [...]

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The Importance of Godly Female Friendships

The Importance of Godly Female Friendships

Maria Yanez, Kate Motaung2025-11-25T07:19:48+00:00November 25th, 2025|Featured, Individual Counseling, Relationship Issues, Women’s Issues|

If you’re a woman, you’ve probably grown up watching examples of tightly bonded female friendships on television. These fictitious bonded pairs make having a bestie look appealing. You relax on your sofa watching Monica and Rachel unequivocally support each other, even through bizarre circumstances, and read the story of Anne Shirley and Diana Barry, whose bond spanned a lifetime. You’ve probably longed for a friendship like this, but finding a friend who will be with you through thick and thin, in good times and bad, isn’t as easy as it is on a television screen or in the pages of a book. As Christians, we shouldn’t be looking to these secular examples of friendship anyway, right? We should be looking for something different from our friendships than helping move a sofa up some stairs or forgiving someone when they accidentally get you drunk off currant wine. But as members of society, we have been conditioned to think that this cultural definition of friendship is the goal. We’ve been told that these examples are the ultimate showcase of true friendship. And while these examples of friendships are funny and heartwarming, a true godly friendship not only warms your heart but draws you closer to the keeper of your heart, God. Ruth and Naomi (Ruth 1-4) In the story of Ruth and Naomi, Ruth didn’t just stick it out with Naomi because it was convenient. No, she left behind everything familiar (homeland, security, and her culture) to walk with Naomi into the unknown. That’s not small talk over a frappe, but is self-sacrificing, ride or die loyalty that was rooted in faith in God. Their friendship was not just an emotional bond, but love in action. Ruth humbly gleaned the fields to provide for Naomi, showing her devotion to her through [...]

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Healing by Faith: Finding Support from a Christian Counselor in Texas

Healing by Faith: Finding Support from a Christian Counselor in Texas

Kate Motaung2026-02-02T15:35:57+00:00September 26th, 2025|Featured, Individual Counseling, Spiritual Development, Women’s Issues|

As Christians, why do we claim, embrace, and take ownership over what does not belong to us, including sicknesses, illnesses, diseases, and afflictions? I hear and see many commercials on prescribed medications for diseases and infections, and people say "my" as if it were theirs to embrace and hold onto. I watched a commercial with a woman singing about Type II diabetes as if it was set up as a musical or play from Broadway. Why is she celebrating the disease as a joyous occasion? This is often the worldly normality of life for those diagnosed with a sickness or disease. Instead, I offer an alternate challenge: Let's be mindful of what we say and change how we speak. Proverbs 18:21 (AMP) says, "The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit." We must watch our language when discussing things that are not part of Yahweh's plan. Let's speak positively! Bad health, disease, and decay were not originally intended for Yahweh's people. When illness strikes, it's a reminder of our human vulnerability, encouraging us to turn to Christ the Messiah for strength, who can restore our health (Jeremiah 30:17). Diseases and sicknesses were not created for us to keep, so why do we claim them as ours? According to the Merriam-Webster Dictionary, "healing" means to be free from injury or disease, to make sound or whole, to restore health, and to make well again. We should treat Yahweh's Scriptures like medicine, nourishing our souls, as they can bring healing. His healing can be instantaneous (Psalm 107:20). Do you believe in the Heavenly Father's Word over the adverse reports that could harm you? Let's stand firmly on our foundation of faith and believe in the Most High's Word. My Testimony of [...]

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How to Deal with Anxiety Attacks

How to Deal with Anxiety Attacks

Melissa Plantz2025-06-21T06:12:15+00:00June 23rd, 2025|Anxiety, Featured, Individual Counseling, Men’s Issues, Women’s Issues|

Anxiety attacks come on suddenly and are often referred to as panic attacks. If you have experienced them, you are probably wondering how to deal with anxiety attacks. The good news is that there are strategies you can use to lessen the severity of an attack and lifestyle changes you can make to reduce your risk of having another one. Tips for Dealing with Anxiety Attacks Learning how to deal with anxiety attacks takes away their power. No longer will you be worried about having a sudden panic attack in a crowded store or on the road. You will learn to ground yourself in the present, focus your mind, use your senses, and improve your physical and cognitive health. As you read the suggestions below, choose a few to try. Specific strategies improve your health, but only if you practice them daily. If you have any questions, consult a counselor. Try to step away Stress and anxiety can trigger an attack due to an increase in cortisol and adrenaline, hormones responsible for the fight-or-flight response. Try to step away from the situation when you become nervous and anxious. This might mean pulling the car over to a safe place or walking out of a room. Take a few deep breaths, exhaling slowly in between each one. Close your eyes and focus on your breathing and heart rate. Deep breathing activates the parasympathetic nervous system to reduce anxiety. Ground yourself Grounding brings you back into the present moment and away from fears and worries. Try the 5-4-3-2-1 Method of grounding by focusing your mind on your surroundings. First, look around at the items closest to you. Name five things you can see. Next, find four things you can touch. Notice their texture. Then, name three things you can hear. Next, [...]

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