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What is a Personal Life Coach? Why You Might Need One

What is a Personal Life Coach? Why You Might Need One

Stacy Davis, Kate Motaung2026-07-02T06:58:18+00:00July 2nd, 2026|Coaching, Featured, Individual Counseling, Personal Development, Professional Development, Spiritual Development|

There are a variety of reasons people look for a personal life coach. It can be to help them through hardship, reach a goal, or change something in their life. Consider whether a personal life coach can help you grow and reach your goals. One example of someone looking for a personal life coach may involve finances. Maybe you are tracking your discretionary spending each month and noticing patterns that are not producing the outcomes you want. While you can identify the problem, you’re having trouble with the solution. Maybe it’s something different. Maybe you and your spouse continue to circle around discussions about household responsibilities. The ones you’re least interested in doing are the ones he needs your help to complete: paying bills on time, managing the children’s discretionary funds, paying for their extracurricular activities, and grocery shopping. Would a personal life coach help? You could try a financial planner, but this emphasizes financial-only goals. As you’ve examined your spending patterns and discussed the budgetary needs with your husband, you’re in agreement (for the most part) about how money is allocated. So, is a financial planner going to help you achieve your goals, not just by ensuring your money is spent according to your budget, but also by resolving disagreements? What about dividing responsibilities? Is this something you can work out on your own, or is it causing more tension in the household? Enter the personal life coach. While life coaching has received some flak in recent years, evidence-based coaching is helpful. It can draw on the studies about coaching from four fields: behavioral sciences, business and economics, philosophy, and workplace learning or development. What is a personal life coach? At its simplest, a personal life coach is someone who helps others find solutions for growth in some [...]

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Caregiving at the End of Life: Tips for Finding Support

Caregiving at the End of Life: Tips for Finding Support

Stephanie Kramer2026-06-30T05:07:43+00:00June 30th, 2026|Featured, Individual Counseling, Spiritual Development|

They say that nothing can prepare you for the end of someone’s life, and to a certain extent, that’s true. The emotions you will feel when the person you’ve been caring for passes away will be complicated. But there are a few things that you can do now to prepare yourself for the eventual death of your loved one. Practical Preparation While no one enjoys thinking about or planning for death, it’s an unavoidable reality that will come to each of us. It’s best to have a plan in place for when the time of death comes. Decide on the type of funeral or memorial you want to have and make preliminary contact with the service providers you intend to use. Gather photos of your loved one to be used at the service or announcements. Write a eulogy for your loved one. The process of writing about your loved one before their death may bring to mind things you’d like to say to them prior to their death. It will also give you more time after they’ve passed to deal with any unexpected issues that may arise and allow you to grieve without a mountain of work to tackle. Say the Things You Need to Say Don’t wait until your loved one has passed to appreciate the relationship you have with them. Even if they cannot respond to you in a way you would like, say the things you want to say. Thank them for their contributions to your life, whatever that might be, and reminisce about the most meaningful moments you’ve shared. Likewise, say the difficult words that you’ve avoided saying. Apologize for your behavior, forgive them for theirs, and whisper “I love you” even if it has always been awkward. You don’t want to look back at [...]

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Worry in the Bible: Moving from Fear toward Trust

Worry in the Bible: Moving from Fear toward Trust

Amanda Osowski, Kate Motaung2026-06-27T08:27:20+00:00June 29th, 2026|Anxiety, Featured, Individual Counseling, Spiritual Development, Women’s Issues|

Have you ever found yourself thinking about what could go wrong or what is going wrong right now? Maybe you are thinking about it repeatedly. You may find yourself feeling uneasy or being overly concerned about a situation or problem you are facing, but you find that all that thinking does not help you find peace or resolution. Instead, you end up feeling anxious and apprehensive, with the problem looming larger in your mind. That is what worry does to us. Our lives are full of situations and circumstances that are out of our control. Try as we might to make our lives predictable and safe, it is hardly possible to buffer ourselves from the challenges that inevitably come our way. All of us worry to some extent, even if we find ourselves worrying about different things. We can try to deal with our problems in many ways, but one thing is certain: worrying generally leaves us feeling anxious. We do not find peace that way. Even though we know this, when a bill comes in the mail, you start feeling poorly, when you are due for a checkup, or before an important event or deadline, you find yourself hopping onto that hamster wheel of worry. Why do people worry? Jesus said of worry, “Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life?” (Matthew 6:27, NIV) Worry is counterproductive because, instead of benefiting us, it negatively affects our mental and emotional health. Anxiety and worry also affect our bodies. But if worry is so counterproductive, why do we do it? Worrying feels like we are doing something. If you’re confronted by a problem, even if there is no immediate or obvious solution, we feel that by thinking about it repeatedly, we are at least doing something. The alternative seems like being passive, or it just feels uncomfortable. As Americans, we have a can-do [...]

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Understanding Moral Injury

Understanding Moral Injury

Ronald Jenkins, Kate Motaung2026-06-18T06:57:30+00:00June 18th, 2026|Featured, Individual Counseling, Spiritual Development, Trauma|

Moral injury, also known as a soul wound, is an invisible wound inflicted on your conscience through experiences that challenge your core values. This could include doing or not doing, failing to prevent, being subject to, or witnessing something that goes against your deeply held moral beliefs, spiritual values, or expectations, and violates your sense of right and wrong. It is characterized by deep psychological distress that leaves you feeling emotionally broken. Although not a formal diagnosis, moral injury has recently been acknowledged by the American Psychiatric Association (APA) as a factor relevant to a person’s mental health, even though not labeled as a mental health disorder itself. To recognize its clinical significance, the APA listed it under “other conditions” in a new, expanded diagnostic category entitled “Moral, Religious, or Spiritual Problem” that was added to their latest (September 2005) text revision of the DSM-5-TR, the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, which is the official handbook used by U.S. mental health care providers to classify and diagnose mental health conditions. While initially identified in combat veterans and most commonly associated with members of the military, moral injury has become increasingly recognized. It is seen in healthcare workers, first responders, and others in high-stress roles or faced with making challenging decisions in difficult circumstances. This goes beyond professionals to include civilians as well. Moral Injury Versus Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder Moral injury and Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) both stem from high-stress experiences. They have certain symptoms in common, such as intense emotional distress, nightmares, and withdrawal. They often co-exist, but they are very different types of trauma. PTSD is officially classified as a psychiatric disorder that is caused by fear of death or danger, and is a nervous system survival-based fight or flight reaction. It stems from witnessing or [...]

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Faith Born in Abandonment: Finding Support from Christian Counseling

Faith Born in Abandonment: Finding Support from Christian Counseling

Maria Yanez, Kate Motaung2026-06-09T06:04:33+00:00June 9th, 2026|Abandonment and Neglect, Featured, Individual Counseling, Spiritual Development|

The old statement, “Necessity is the mother of invention” (Plato), celebrates the beauty that comes from need. There are no catchy phrases to describe every happy little consequence that stems from adversity or need. There aren’t t-shirts that read “Anxiety Begets Boundaries” or “Rejections Gave Me Clarity.” Phrases like this on merch could help us remember these ideas that are so hard to grasp. Sometimes, the pain that we try so desperately to avoid actually ends up leading us directly to the most profound growth and the loving arms of our Father. Abandonment Abandonment is a good example. Abandonment can crush you, leaving you questioning your worth, your relationships, and even your faith. But buried under the rubble of heartache and the salty tears, something surprisingly amazing can emerge: faith. When you’re surrounded by comfort, plenty, and love, your needs diminish. Your belly is full, your heart connected, and your needs met. But when you are left alone, abandoned, and left to fend for yourself, those comforts, connections, and needs may not be as easy to meet. A divorced dad who is used to having a wife next to him in bed at night might feel loneliness when he pats the empty sheets. A widow may notice the absence of her husband most when she walks into family gatherings alone. A child whose parents died when they were young can feel the awkwardness of aloneness when their peers complain about their own parents and their restrictive rules. These are just a few of the scenarios that play out in the lives of people every day. Whether it’s labeled as loneliness, empty nest, grief, or sadness, it can also be called abandonment. Not all abandonment is physical. Sometimes abandonment can happen even when someone is physically present. A husband can [...]

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Finding Rest in God’s Presence When Job Burnout Threatens Your Peace

Finding Rest in God’s Presence When Job Burnout Threatens Your Peace

Amanda Osowski, Kate Motaung2026-04-21T14:23:58+00:00April 21st, 2026|Featured, Individual Counseling, Men’s Issues, Professional Development, Spiritual Development, Women’s Issues|

Job burnout does not come with a big announcement of its arrival. It simply creeps in and shows up in the morning when you cannot find a reason to care about the work that once excited you. It lives in the tension between what you know you should feel and the emptiness that has taken its place. When you realize you cannot keep going at your current pace, heaviness could start to settle within you, and you find yourself experiencing job burnout. Societal pressure surrounding work often creates an impossible standard. This standard dictates that you should be passionate and driven, but also maintain balance and be present. Society defines success as climbing the ladder and staying grounded. You are expected to pour everything into your career and still have meaningful relationships. This is a fast pathway to a destructive form of stress. When you lean on your faith during this time, it can offer you something different. It will help you understand who you are so that you do not become defined by what you do. It is a perspective that helps you reframe the demands of work. It opens your eyes to see the big picture about what it is to be human and how God has designed us to live. The Weight of Constant Performance and Job Burnout The modern workplace operates with the idea that more is always better. The more hours, output, and availability you give, the better your work performance appears. You might be considered high-achieving or an example of what “hard work” should look like. It is a system that treats human beings like machines that can be fine-tuned for maximum productivity, rather than the intelligent humans God has created. Exhaustion is often deeper than physical tiredness. You may feel like there’s a weariness that comes from constantly performing to prove your value. You question whether you are producing enough high-quality work. Job burnout stems [...]

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Finding Support in Times of Suffering

Finding Support in Times of Suffering

Maria Yanez, Kate Motaung2026-05-15T09:04:29+00:00March 20th, 2026|Featured, Individual Counseling, Spiritual Development, Women’s Issues|

My God, my God, why have you forsaken me? Why are you so far from saving me, so far from my cries of anguish? – Psalm 22:1, NIV To the sufferer, these verses resonate with the deepest heartache one can experience. Whether it be a loss of a loved one, a betrayal, an illness, or one of the many pains of living in a broken world, this kind of pain can lead to one feeling isolated and alone, as if no one can truly understand the depths of the sorrow and pain. This type of pain can lead to feeling furthest from God, prompting the question, “Where are you?” Suffering in the Book of Job In times of suffering, when the feeling of isolation hits deepest, the book of Job can bring comfort. Job, described by God as “blameless and upright, a man who fears God and shuns evil” (Job 1:8), teaches the sufferer that tragedy doesn’t always stem from one’s own failure. Rather, even the righteous aren’t safe from the suffering of this sin-tainted world. However, this insight can also bring fear, because it means tragedy is unpredictable, which goes against the human desire for predictability and security. In attempts for security, the sufferer and even their close friends and family will make desperate attempts to make sense of the tragedy. Job laments and cries out to the Lord in various verses: Teach me, and I will be quiet; show me where I have been wrong. – Job 6:24, NIV Your hands shaped me and made me… Remember that you molded me like clay. Will you now turn me to dust again? – Job 10:8-12, NIV Why do the wicked live on, growing old and increasing in power? – Job 21:7, NIV In times of despair and chaos, it’s only [...]

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Finding Rest When You Struggle with Moral OCD or Religious Scrupulosity

Finding Rest When You Struggle with Moral OCD or Religious Scrupulosity

Joseph Bennett, Kate Motaung2026-03-10T10:41:37+00:00March 10th, 2026|Featured, Individual Counseling, Men’s Issues, OCD, Spiritual Development|

Am I enough? Am I doing enough? These questions can haunt you in your relationships, at work, when you’re out and about, and in the quieter moments during the night. Such questions can hit even harder when they concern your faith. What ought to be a refuge starts to feel like another cage. That is the case when a person struggles with moral OCD or religious scrupulosity. Your faith is supposed to help you draw nearer to the Lord, and it ought not be a burden or something that makes you feel distant from Him. Even if you struggle with religious scrupulosity, you may not recognize it, which might only add to your distress. It can help to understand what religious scrupulosity is, how it affects you, and how to reconnect with the Lord through a deeper, authentic faith. Religious Scrupulosity and Moral OCD Religious scrupulosity may be a new term that you haven’t heard in everyday conversation. However, if you pause and break them down, the meaning starts to become clear. to God or faith. When we say a person is scrupulous, it typically means that they are quite careful and thorough, with an extreme concern to avoid doing something wrong. Religious scrupulosity, then, is when a person is thorough, careful, and deeply concerned with getting things right when it comes to being moral or fulfilling religious obligations. A person with religious scrupulosity obsesses about moral correctness. They will often experience deep fears and doubts that they are not faithful enough to the Lord, that they are sinning, or that they are failing to meet their religious obligations in some way. One of the challenges of religious scrupulosity is that the individual feels like a failure despite their best and sincere efforts at practicing their faith. This condition is [...]

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Using Biblical Wisdom to Break the Cycle of Negative Thinking

Using Biblical Wisdom to Break the Cycle of Negative Thinking

Joseph Bennett, Kate Motaung2026-02-18T13:57:02+00:00February 18th, 2026|Featured, Individual Counseling, Personal Development, Spiritual Development|

We all have a mind that talks to us. The brain uses it to replay experiences (via thoughts that pop up as we go about our day), to help us make decisions, and to guide future choices. These thoughts, however, are not always accurate or true. At times we can fall into a cycle of negative thinking. In the space between stimulus (what happens) and how we respond, lies our freedom to choose. – Stephen R. Cove Due to a survival-based trait known as negativity bias, the brain is wired to pay more attention to negative experiences and anything that could potentially be dangerous or pose a threat. As a result, negative thoughts tend to stick with us more firmly, and we may not even notice the many positive things in our surroundings. Examples of Negative Thinking Ruminating You get stuck in an unproductive loop of negative thoughts and feelings about past distressing experiences, mistakes, or events, and keep replaying the details repeatedly in your mind Overgeneralization You assume that because something happened one way, it will always happen that way. So, for instance, a negative experience in one situation is an indicator of a never-ending pattern of defeat. Mental filtering You discount the good in a situation and see only the bad. You may, for instance, feel as though your accomplishments don’t count, or focus on a negative detail of something instead of a realistic appraisal of the whole. All or nothing thinking You see everything in extremes of black or white, or good or bad, with no middle ground. One mistake, for instance, can lead you to believe that you are a complete failure. Jumping to conclusions You think you know what the outcome of things will be and are quick to jump to conclusions, interpret situations, [...]

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The Hidden Trap of Codependency in Church Small Groups

The Hidden Trap of Codependency in Church Small Groups

Joseph Bennett, Kate Motaung2026-02-12T06:08:00+00:00February 12th, 2026|Codependency, Featured, Individual Counseling, Relationship Issues, Spiritual Development|

Church was meant to be a place of healing and growth, but with the introduction of small groups, unhealthy codependent behavior patterns have been introduced to believers. In the confines of these small groups, there is a dynamic that can inadvertently foster patterns of codependency. Disguised as devotion and masked with good intentions, this trap lies hidden. Caring for others becomes a consuming need that fuels the desire to be needed. This creates a cycle of trying to fulfill that need and ultimately leads to exhaustion. The tension that develops between the biblical community and personal boundaries becomes a complicated dance in a struggle to know where serving ends and self-destruction begins. We were never meant to establish relationships where one person carries the burden and the other contributes nothing. However, in small groups, this imbalance shows up quite frequently and creates a facade about Christ-like love. Bear one another’s burdens, and thereby fulfill the law of Christ. For if anyone thinks that he is something when he is nothing, he deceives himself. – Galatians 6:2-3, NASB Recognizing Codependent Behavior Patterns in Faith Communities The issue runs deeper than a simple people-pleasing mindset. Sometimes, church environments cause unconscious reward and codependent behavior by celebrating self-sacrifice. The underlying motives aren’t examined because members feel they must take part in everything the church does. Members often prioritize the needs of others above their own, and they fear conflict at all costs. They may even derive their sense of worth from being indispensable leaders. Small groups create an atmosphere that promotes vulnerability because of their intimate nature. Members share deep personal struggles, which creates opportunities for other individuals to become emotional rescuers. These rescuers feel as though they are needed and valuable, and others learn to rely on this consistent source of [...]

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