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Using the Psychodynamic Approach to Reconnect With Parts of Yourself You’ve Silenced

2026-07-31T13:53:10+00:00July 31st, 2026|Featured, Individual Counseling, Personal Development|

There are parts of you that rarely get a voice. Many people of faith wrestle with emotions they’ve learned to suppress, from fear, shame, guilt, and resentment to grief that feels unacceptable. Yet those unspoken feelings still influence how you relate, love, and respond. The psychodynamic approach offers a way to listen inward again, to understand what those quiet emotions have been trying to say all along. When people hear the word psychodynamic, it can sound like something reserved for textbooks or graduate programs. In practice, this approach is simply a way of understanding how your emotional experiences still influence how you think, feel, and relate today. This approach helps you see how your inner world works. It looks at the feelings you’ve learned to push aside, the stories you tell yourself about who you are, and the ways you protect yourself from pain. It helps you understand yourself. That understanding becomes the foundation for real change, because you can’t heal what you don’t recognize. Where The Psychodynamic Approach Comes From The psychodynamic approach grew out of early psychology, when therapists began noticing that people’s current struggles were mostly connected to experiences they hadn’t fully processed. Over time, this idea evolved from the work of thinkers like Freud and Jung into a more modern, compassionate way of understanding how the past shapes the present. In simple terms, the psychodynamic approach looks at the emotional patterns that live beneath your everyday reactions. Why Old Feelings Still Shape How You See Yourself Today Most people assume that once something is in the past, it stays there. In truth, emotional experiences don’t fade just because time passes. They linger in the background, influencing how you see yourself and how you respond to others. Maybe you learned early on that expressing anger led [...]

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Habits That Make Loneliness and Depression Worse

, 2026-07-18T05:00:35+00:00July 20th, 2026|Depression, Featured, Individual Counseling, Men’s Issues, Women’s Issues|

It’s perfectly normal to sometimes feel alone, vulnerable, and in need of connection, support, and validation. Many people go through seasons of feeling this way until their situation changes, and they find the help they need. However, others seem to live their lives in a constant state of loneliness and depression, forever frustrated that they can’t seem to connect with anybody, and clueless as to how to change. Loneliness is not about being alone as much as it’s about feeling unseen and as if you don’t matter. This might have started in childhood, when your needs and wants were dismissed or overlooked by someone who should have been nurturing and loving you. It might be the result of recent trauma that has left you feeling as if you no longer know how to participate in society. Regardless of the root cause, you have likely picked up habits over the years that have contributed to your feelings of loneliness and depression. You are not forever stuck in this situation, but there is work to do if you are going to get out of it. When Loneliness and Depression Leave You Feeling Invisible If you are dealing with loneliness and depression, you might feel as if you are a ghost. It is as if people see through you and as if you make no real impression on anyone around you. This is an awful feeling that you can never get used to, no matter how many years you have experienced it, and you should never have to. People are made for connection, friendships, relationships, and interdependence. Life is supposed to be complicated and sometimes messy, busy, challenging, and comforting. We are meant to have our hearts broken and then mended, to have love and to give it, to provide support to [...]

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Navigating Conflict in the Workplace as a Manager

, 2026-07-16T08:24:54+00:00July 16th, 2026|Featured, Individual Counseling, Men’s Issues, Professional Development, Relationship Issues, Women’s Issues|

Conflict is inevitable in any place where people meet together daily. In a workplace, agreements and progress coexist with personality clashes and other issues that you might feel unqualified to handle as a manager. No matter the amount of training and experience you have, you will face conflict in the workplace at some point, and you might struggle to deal with it. By nature, being in a management position means being a bridge between different departments and levels of leadership, as well as a bridge between workers when they are divided over an issue. While you might have departments like Human Resources and leaders in upper management for support, there will be times when you must step into the role of mediator. Part of your job is to ensure that conflict is resolved and progress can continue. Sometimes you will feel stretched beyond your capacity as you focus on your personal responsibilities and goals, while motivating, directing, and confronting workers in your department. Conflict in the workplace is not only common, but it is often normal and sometimes even healthy. It can show that people are affected by the events that take place in the workplace, and are unwilling to let go, give up, or walk away. On the other hand, conflict in the workplace will lead to bigger issues and deeper hurt unless you step in and take control of the situation. Mediating conflict is a learned skill that needs to be practiced regularly. Many managers face personal struggles in this area. If you are willing to be self-reflective and unbiased when approaching and confronting conflict, it will help. Always a Personal Issue Even when conflict in the workplace does not involve you and require your leadership, it still impacts you emotionally and mentally. You might not realize [...]

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5 “As” for Dealing with Resentment in Marriage

, 2026-07-07T06:31:28+00:00July 7th, 2026|Couples Counseling, Featured, Marriage Counseling, Relationship Issues|

A perfect marriage does not exist. Some marriages are struggling, some are flourishing and healthy, some are dysfunctional, characterized by resentment, and some are happy. But perfect marriages – meaning marriages where there are no issues and all needs and expectations are met as desired – are quite likely an ideal that is rarely, if ever, realized. In any given marriage, there are two people with distinct personalities, needs, stresses, gifts, and abilities. Even with the best of intentions, two such imperfect people are bound to offend one another, either through what they do or what they leave undone. When that happens, the couple can deal with it in ways that bring life to the marriage, or they can address it in ways that spark anger and cause the situation to spiral further downward. Resentment is one of the sentiments that can take root in a marriage and undermine its health. Dealing with it swiftly and decisively is one of the best things you can do to help you and your spouse toward a happier marriage. What is resentment? Resentment is the feeling of anger or indignation that often results when a person is treated unfairly, taken advantage of, or emotionally wounded in any other way. It is a complex and multilayered emotion that combines disappointment, disgust, and anger. Resentment can set in after a single incident, but it often takes root after a pattern of behavior emerges. Resentment often compounds over time. When we feel resentful toward a person, it can present in a variety of ways. It could look like us pretending to be happy and smiling at them to cover our true feelings toward them, or it manifests in speaking in a sarcastic or demeaning way to or about the person we feel resentful toward. What can [...]

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6 Ways Delayed Responses to Trauma Can Impact Primary Caregivers

, 2026-07-03T06:53:03+00:00July 3rd, 2026|Featured, Individual Counseling, Trauma|

Delaying a response to a difficult situation happens often. Avoiding looking at your child’s grades online, looking the other way when you know your child’s behavior isn’t acceptable or respectful, and staying quiet when your spouse’s anger gets explosive, even though he or she isn’t abusive, are all ways a primary caregiver may be responding to trauma that was never fully processed or healed. A simple definition of trauma is a traumatic event or series of events that impacts a person’s sense of self, relationships with others, and everyday life. Trauma responses can be immediate or delayed, and they can be normal and temporary, depending on the individual. Trauma responses can also be detrimental to a person’s way of life in certain areas if not healed. When a primary caregiver isn’t aware of how his own trauma has impacted him, it can reveal itself in how he parents his children. The Difference Between Delayed and Timely Response to Trauma If you experienced trauma as a child or even as a young adult or teen, it can be difficult to discern whether you’ve processed the grief and other emotions that can coincide with trauma. Immediate physical responses to trauma may include restlessness or a feeling of not being sure what to do. You may have excess energy but struggle to know how to use it. Cognitive responses that are more immediate include an inability to concentrate or struggling to discern the time lapse during a traumatic event. However, delayed response to the same trauma may be that instead of struggling to concentrate, you detach yourself from responsibilities that would require concentration. You don’t go to work, struggle to eat and sleep, and experience thoughts that seem unwanted and intrusive related to the traumatic event. This keeps you in a perpetual [...]

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What is a Personal Life Coach? Why You Might Need One

, 2026-07-02T06:58:18+00:00July 2nd, 2026|Coaching, Featured, Individual Counseling, Personal Development, Professional Development, Spiritual Development|

There are a variety of reasons people look for a personal life coach. It can be to help them through hardship, reach a goal, or change something in their life. Consider whether a personal life coach can help you grow and reach your goals. One example of someone looking for a personal life coach may involve finances. Maybe you are tracking your discretionary spending each month and noticing patterns that are not producing the outcomes you want. While you can identify the problem, you’re having trouble with the solution. Maybe it’s something different. Maybe you and your spouse continue to circle around discussions about household responsibilities. The ones you’re least interested in doing are the ones he needs your help to complete: paying bills on time, managing the children’s discretionary funds, paying for their extracurricular activities, and grocery shopping. Would a personal life coach help? You could try a financial planner, but this emphasizes financial-only goals. As you’ve examined your spending patterns and discussed the budgetary needs with your husband, you’re in agreement (for the most part) about how money is allocated. So, is a financial planner going to help you achieve your goals, not just by ensuring your money is spent according to your budget, but also by resolving disagreements? What about dividing responsibilities? Is this something you can work out on your own, or is it causing more tension in the household? Enter the personal life coach. While life coaching has received some flak in recent years, evidence-based coaching is helpful. It can draw on the studies about coaching from four fields: behavioral sciences, business and economics, philosophy, and workplace learning or development. What is a personal life coach? At its simplest, a personal life coach is someone who helps others find solutions for growth in some [...]

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Caregiving at the End of Life: Tips for Finding Support

2026-06-30T05:07:43+00:00June 30th, 2026|Featured, Individual Counseling, Spiritual Development|

They say that nothing can prepare you for the end of someone’s life, and to a certain extent, that’s true. The emotions you will feel when the person you’ve been caring for passes away will be complicated. But there are a few things that you can do now to prepare yourself for the eventual death of your loved one. Practical Preparation While no one enjoys thinking about or planning for death, it’s an unavoidable reality that will come to each of us. It’s best to have a plan in place for when the time of death comes. Decide on the type of funeral or memorial you want to have and make preliminary contact with the service providers you intend to use. Gather photos of your loved one to be used at the service or announcements. Write a eulogy for your loved one. The process of writing about your loved one before their death may bring to mind things you’d like to say to them prior to their death. It will also give you more time after they’ve passed to deal with any unexpected issues that may arise and allow you to grieve without a mountain of work to tackle. Say the Things You Need to Say Don’t wait until your loved one has passed to appreciate the relationship you have with them. Even if they cannot respond to you in a way you would like, say the things you want to say. Thank them for their contributions to your life, whatever that might be, and reminisce about the most meaningful moments you’ve shared. Likewise, say the difficult words that you’ve avoided saying. Apologize for your behavior, forgive them for theirs, and whisper “I love you” even if it has always been awkward. You don’t want to look back at [...]

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Worry in the Bible: Moving from Fear toward Trust

, 2026-06-27T08:27:20+00:00June 29th, 2026|Anxiety, Featured, Individual Counseling, Spiritual Development, Women’s Issues|

Have you ever found yourself thinking about what could go wrong or what is going wrong right now? Maybe you are thinking about it repeatedly. You may find yourself feeling uneasy or being overly concerned about a situation or problem you are facing, but you find that all that thinking does not help you find peace or resolution. Instead, you end up feeling anxious and apprehensive, with the problem looming larger in your mind. That is what worry does to us. Our lives are full of situations and circumstances that are out of our control. Try as we might to make our lives predictable and safe, it is hardly possible to buffer ourselves from the challenges that inevitably come our way. All of us worry to some extent, even if we find ourselves worrying about different things. We can try to deal with our problems in many ways, but one thing is certain: worrying generally leaves us feeling anxious. We do not find peace that way. Even though we know this, when a bill comes in the mail, you start feeling poorly, when you are due for a checkup, or before an important event or deadline, you find yourself hopping onto that hamster wheel of worry. Why do people worry? Jesus said of worry, “Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life?” (Matthew 6:27, NIV) Worry is counterproductive because, instead of benefiting us, it negatively affects our mental and emotional health. Anxiety and worry also affect our bodies. But if worry is so counterproductive, why do we do it? Worrying feels like we are doing something. If you’re confronted by a problem, even if there is no immediate or obvious solution, we feel that by thinking about it repeatedly, we are at least doing something. The alternative seems like being passive, or it just feels uncomfortable. As Americans, we have a can-do [...]

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Hard Lessons from Grief: How Trauma Reveals Your Real “Family”

, 2026-06-19T05:33:09+00:00June 19th, 2026|Featured, Grief Counseling, Individual Counseling, Relationship Issues|

Words can be empty. The painful truth is that you won’t truly know who your real friends are, who rightly belong in your “chosen family,” until a crisis hits. Grief and trauma serve as a crucible, testing the mettle of every relationship you hold. A true friend is someone who walks in when the rest of the world walks out. – Walter Winchell What’s a friend? The word “friend” is often used loosely and is hard to define. Some people consider acquaintances their friends, and others save that label for those who are actively participating in their lives. Most people would agree that a friend is a person you have a bond of mutual affection with, someone you trust and who supports you. Some might define a friend as someone you enjoy being around and sharing experiences with. Others might say that a friend is simply someone you can rely on. In short, most would agree that a friend is someone you choose to have in your life and, perhaps more importantly, someone who chooses you back. When life is easy, friendships are also relatively easy to come by. Everyone loves to be around people who are in good moods, who share generously, and make life a little more exciting. But a true friend is a little harder to come by. A true friend is someone who sticks with you, even when life gets complicated, and shows up when things get hard. They will be there for you when you’re grieving, stressed, or facing challenges. The Vulnerability of Grief Grief makes you sad, tired, and overwhelmed. It strips away both distractions and security and makes you feel vulnerable and fragile. In this state of mind, you will need support, comfort, and maybe a shoulder to cry on more than [...]

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Understanding Moral Injury

, 2026-06-18T06:57:30+00:00June 18th, 2026|Featured, Individual Counseling, Spiritual Development, Trauma|

Moral injury, also known as a soul wound, is an invisible wound inflicted on your conscience through experiences that challenge your core values. This could include doing or not doing, failing to prevent, being subject to, or witnessing something that goes against your deeply held moral beliefs, spiritual values, or expectations, and violates your sense of right and wrong. It is characterized by deep psychological distress that leaves you feeling emotionally broken. Although not a formal diagnosis, moral injury has recently been acknowledged by the American Psychiatric Association (APA) as a factor relevant to a person’s mental health, even though not labeled as a mental health disorder itself. To recognize its clinical significance, the APA listed it under “other conditions” in a new, expanded diagnostic category entitled “Moral, Religious, or Spiritual Problem” that was added to their latest (September 2005) text revision of the DSM-5-TR, the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, which is the official handbook used by U.S. mental health care providers to classify and diagnose mental health conditions. While initially identified in combat veterans and most commonly associated with members of the military, moral injury has become increasingly recognized. It is seen in healthcare workers, first responders, and others in high-stress roles or faced with making challenging decisions in difficult circumstances. This goes beyond professionals to include civilians as well. Moral Injury Versus Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder Moral injury and Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) both stem from high-stress experiences. They have certain symptoms in common, such as intense emotional distress, nightmares, and withdrawal. They often co-exist, but they are very different types of trauma. PTSD is officially classified as a psychiatric disorder that is caused by fear of death or danger, and is a nervous system survival-based fight or flight reaction. It stems from witnessing or [...]

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