Ronald Jenkins, Rockwall Christian Counseling

About Ronald Jenkins

Having served as a pastor for 30 years, my passion is to help people overcome the difficulties they are facing in life. Clients will benefit from my practice being supervised by Dr. Greg Stewart, PhD, MDiv, LPC-S, License Number 76329. Whether you’re looking for counseling for teens, adult individuals, or couples, together we will work to find the core of your concerns and develop a plan to overcome them, with God’s help. As a Christian counselor, I will pray for you and encourage you to become the person God has created you to be. In our sessions you can expect to be treated with respect, compassion, and the love of God. My aim is for you to leave each session having taken positive steps in your healing process.

Navigating Conflict in the Workplace as a Manager

Navigating Conflict in the Workplace as a Manager

Ronald Jenkins, Kate Motaung2026-07-16T08:24:54+00:00July 16th, 2026|Featured, Individual Counseling, Men’s Issues, Professional Development, Relationship Issues, Women’s Issues|

Conflict is inevitable in any place where people meet together daily. In a workplace, agreements and progress coexist with personality clashes and other issues that you might feel unqualified to handle as a manager. No matter the amount of training and experience you have, you will face conflict in the workplace at some point, and you might struggle to deal with it. By nature, being in a management position means being a bridge between different departments and levels of leadership, as well as a bridge between workers when they are divided over an issue. While you might have departments like Human Resources and leaders in upper management for support, there will be times when you must step into the role of mediator. Part of your job is to ensure that conflict is resolved and progress can continue. Sometimes you will feel stretched beyond your capacity as you focus on your personal responsibilities and goals, while motivating, directing, and confronting workers in your department. Conflict in the workplace is not only common, but it is often normal and sometimes even healthy. It can show that people are affected by the events that take place in the workplace, and are unwilling to let go, give up, or walk away. On the other hand, conflict in the workplace will lead to bigger issues and deeper hurt unless you step in and take control of the situation. Mediating conflict is a learned skill that needs to be practiced regularly. Many managers face personal struggles in this area. If you are willing to be self-reflective and unbiased when approaching and confronting conflict, it will help. Always a Personal Issue Even when conflict in the workplace does not involve you and require your leadership, it still impacts you emotionally and mentally. You might not realize [...]

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Understanding Moral Injury

Understanding Moral Injury

Ronald Jenkins, Kate Motaung2026-06-18T06:57:30+00:00June 18th, 2026|Featured, Individual Counseling, Spiritual Development, Trauma|

Moral injury, also known as a soul wound, is an invisible wound inflicted on your conscience through experiences that challenge your core values. This could include doing or not doing, failing to prevent, being subject to, or witnessing something that goes against your deeply held moral beliefs, spiritual values, or expectations, and violates your sense of right and wrong. It is characterized by deep psychological distress that leaves you feeling emotionally broken. Although not a formal diagnosis, moral injury has recently been acknowledged by the American Psychiatric Association (APA) as a factor relevant to a person’s mental health, even though not labeled as a mental health disorder itself. To recognize its clinical significance, the APA listed it under “other conditions” in a new, expanded diagnostic category entitled “Moral, Religious, or Spiritual Problem” that was added to their latest (September 2005) text revision of the DSM-5-TR, the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, which is the official handbook used by U.S. mental health care providers to classify and diagnose mental health conditions. While initially identified in combat veterans and most commonly associated with members of the military, moral injury has become increasingly recognized. It is seen in healthcare workers, first responders, and others in high-stress roles or faced with making challenging decisions in difficult circumstances. This goes beyond professionals to include civilians as well. Moral Injury Versus Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder Moral injury and Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) both stem from high-stress experiences. They have certain symptoms in common, such as intense emotional distress, nightmares, and withdrawal. They often co-exist, but they are very different types of trauma. PTSD is officially classified as a psychiatric disorder that is caused by fear of death or danger, and is a nervous system survival-based fight or flight reaction. It stems from witnessing or [...]

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What Is AuDHD? A Christian Counselor in Texas Explains

What Is AuDHD? A Christian Counselor in Texas Explains

Ronald Jenkins, Kate Motaung2026-04-29T14:03:49+00:00April 29th, 2026|ADHD/ADD, Autism Spectrum Disorder, Christian Counseling for Children, Christian Counseling For Teens, Family Counseling, Featured, Individual Counseling|

The term AuDHD is a combination of the word “autism” and the acronym “ADHD.” It refers to a neurodevelopmental disorder that doesn’t fit into a single diagnostic category of autism spectrum disorder (ASD) or Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD). While not an official diagnosis or a clinical term, it is commonly used to describe the co-occurrence of both these conditions. AuDHD Versus Autism and ADHD Autism and ADHD are separate conditions, each with its own set of symptoms and diagnostic criteria. Autism typically affects the way you communicate and experience the world, whereas ADHD primarily impacts attention and impulse control. AuDHD, on the other hand, influences both and can create an internal clash between your contradictory autistic and ADHD traits that predispose your brain to both want routine and fight against it. Common traits of autism include: difficulty navigating social situations trouble interpreting non-verbal cues such as facial expressions, tone of voice, or body language taking things literally and not being able to understand subtle nuances, such as jokes or sarcasm social withdrawal a need for structure and routine being stressed by disrupted routines, unexpected change, or transitions repetitive patterns of behavior; restricted interests intense sensitivity to lights, sounds, textures, and smells and feeling overwhelmed in unfamiliar or high-stimulus environments In contrast, common traits of ADHD include: inattentiveness having a hard time staying focused on what you are doing hyperactivity difficulty following through on instructions or completing tasks being easily distracted acting without thinking and trouble regulating emotions or controlling impulses. The challenges of AuDHD go beyond those of either ADHD or autism alone and can interact in complicated ways. You may feel pulled between two extremes as you try to manage the sensory overload resulting from autism, while at the same time trying to cope with the distractibility and impulsivity [...]

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Understanding Generational Family Conflict and Its Trauma

Understanding Generational Family Conflict and Its Trauma

Ronald Jenkins, Kate Motaung2026-03-27T11:02:35+00:00March 6th, 2026|Family Counseling, Featured, Relationship Issues|

It’s not just your grandma’s eyes or your father’s laugh that you inherit. Sometimes the inheritance comes in the form of unresolved generational family conflicts. These situations have echoed throughout your childhood and have probably shaken the core of how you navigate relationships today. However, what you may think is your struggle is actually a continuation of the conflicts that began decades before you were born. They don’t just fade away. They become embedded in the family system, creating trauma patterns. This revelation isn’t meant to discourage you, but rather to enlighten you about all that you may be carrying emotionally and mentally. Anxiety about conflict, the tendency to avoid difficult discussions, or a struggle to trust others could be the result of other situations that were not your own. These could be inherited responses from ancestors who survived through silence, avoidance, or aggression. By understanding this connection, you make a move toward breaking cycles from generations before you. Hatred stirs up conflict, but love covers over all wrongs. – Proverbs 10:12, NIV The Hidden Patterns of Generational Family Conflicts There are no family manuals about unresolved conflicts, but they are taught in many ways. These were manifested in small behaviors of your parents. The way they handled disagreements and emotional responses to specific topics taught you lessons about safety, love, and survival. These lessons became your internal manual for navigating relationships, even though it was improperly written. Leaving generational family conflicts unaddressed can create what is called “survival messages.” This can manifest as never challenging authority due to abuse. Your mother may have learned this pattern from her mother, and then it was inadvertently passed down to you as you watched it unfold in your childhood. When this message is internalized, it can lead to the belief that [...]

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4 Signs Your Husband May Be Having an Affair

4 Signs Your Husband May Be Having an Affair

Ronald Jenkins, Kate Motaung2025-11-22T07:47:11+00:00November 24th, 2025|Couples Counseling, Featured, Individual Counseling, Infidelity and Affairs, Marriage Counseling, Relationship Issues|

Infidelity in marriage can have devastating consequences for both spouses in the marriage. If you suspect that your husband may be having an affair, there are signs to look for. By paying attention to their behaviors, you may be able to stop an affair from happening and devastating your marriage. 4 Signs Your Husband May Be Having an Affair If you see one of these suggested behaviors below, it’s essential to say something and express your concerns to prevent your suspicions from becoming a reality. Please don’t wait until it’s too late. Here are four signs your husband may be having an affair. Secretive Texts If your husband is texting secretly or becoming more possessive about his phone or whereabouts, he may be having an affair. Another sign your husband may be keeping secrets about whom he’s texting is if notifications do not pop up on this phone. If your husband once had notifications that would pop up and you could see who texted him, but now you can’t, that may be a sign that he doesn’t want you to know those to whom he’s talking. If you find this is the case, ask him point-blank to whom he’s talking. If he is elusive or you suspect he’s lying, ask to see his phone. Check any suspicious numbers or names that seem foreign to you. While there should be trust in every relationship, if you suspect the person is acting differently than usual, it may be best to ask the question and see how they respond. Couples who have been together a long time know when the other person is lying. If the husband does not let you see the phone, this will confirm suspicions that something is up, and he is hiding something. Give them consequences for their actions [...]

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How Your Upbringing Affects Your First Year of Marriage: Dividing Household Responsibilities

How Your Upbringing Affects Your First Year of Marriage: Dividing Household Responsibilities

Ronald Jenkins, Kate Motaung2025-09-05T07:04:40+00:00September 5th, 2025|Couples Counseling, Featured, Marriage Counseling, Relationship Issues|

Marriage is a beautiful journey filled with joy, love, and growth, but it also comes with its share of challenges, especially managing household responsibilities. For newlyweds, disagreements over chores can quickly overshadow the excitement of starting their life together. What these couples often overlook is that their differing expectations are not just about dishes and dusting – they are rooted in the ways they were raised. Understanding how upbringing shapes our views on household roles and learning to adjust to these differences in our spouse are crucial steps toward building a harmonious marriage and finally tackling the “to-do list.” Katie and Carson: A Case Study in Marital Expectations Katie and Carson were a young couple who had been happily married for three months. They had moved into a cozy new apartment, sparsely furnished and filled with thrifted items and hand-me-downs. Because neither of them had ever lived alone, neither had learned how to efficiently maintain a home. Soon, the dirty dishes were piled up in the sink, and the trash cans overflowed. Their love nest had turned into a pigsty, and neither was willing to do the household chores. Katie came from a single-dad household where her father had done most of the housework. Carson grew up in a house that had more traditional gender roles, where his mother took care of all the household responsibilities while his dad supported the family financially. Katie and Carson had opposite viewpoints as to who should be taking care of the household chores. Since Carson worked a full-time job, he felt that Katie should take on most of the household chores. Katie felt that the household chores should be equally shared, even though she did not contribute financially to the household. The Impact of Upbringing on Marriage Expectations The way we are raised [...]

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Do Toxic Couples Know They’re Toxic?

Do Toxic Couples Know They’re Toxic?

Ronald Jenkins, Kate Motaung2025-08-01T07:35:06+00:00August 1st, 2025|Couples Counseling, Featured, Marriage Counseling, Premarital Counseling, Relationship Issues|

Having healthy self-awareness can help you in many life situations. If you can tell that you’re getting angry, for example, you can remove yourself from the situation or otherwise take steps to manage your anger appropriately. Similarly, if you know your limits of patience, wisdom, time, and capacity, that will help you prevent overextending or overcommitting yourself, which can lead to chronic stress and burnout. Just as self-awareness can help you in these ways, it can also help you in your relationships. Not all relationships are made equal, as some are healthy and can contribute to you becoming the best version of yourself, while others can break you down and diminish you and your well-being. Being aware of what type of relationship you’re in, or better yet, knowing what sort of relationships to avoid, can help protect you and your well-being. What are toxic couples? Romantic relationships come in all kinds of packages, but despite these differences, at the heart of every healthy relationship should be love, respect, and care for one another. Healthy relationships make for better well-being, as people find the support they need to pursue their goals, and their relationships aren’t a source of stress and constant conflict. Having people around you who care for you makes a huge difference in your life. Toxic couples are those who aren’t loving, respectful, or caring in the way they relate to one another and the posture they take toward each other. This can happen in big, obvious ways that are plain to see, but it can happen in small ways that are no less impactful in undermining the health of the relationship. The couple may be completely oblivious to themselves, but the relationship will nonetheless still be toxic. When soil, water, or air is toxic, what we mean [...]

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Preventing Generational Attachment Issues from Affecting Your Kids

Preventing Generational Attachment Issues from Affecting Your Kids

Ronald Jenkins, Kate Motaung2025-06-21T06:35:16+00:00June 23rd, 2025|Abandonment and Neglect, Christian Counseling for Children, Christian Counseling For Teens, Family Counseling, Featured, Individual Counseling, Relationship Issues|

Sometimes, ingrained habits from our past can unknowingly affect how we parent and influence the emotional development of our children in ways we might not even realize. This is often the case with negative attachment issues, which are usually repeated patterns that quietly shape the emotional landscape of our families. Perhaps you’ve already noticed your child’s hesitation to connect with others, or maybe how they act out when they feel scared or uncertain. As a parent, you might even catch yourself repeating the same emotional patterns that you experienced growing up and wonder why you struggle to connect in certain ways with your child. If these things sound familiar, it might be a sign of generational attachment issues that can affect both you and your kids. Unresolved attachment issues are more than just a set of behaviors; they are deeply ingrained emotional patterns that begin in childhood. When these issues are ignored, they can have long-lasting effects, not only on us but on our children as well. The good news is that with awareness and intentional effort, these cycles can be broken. What are attachment issues, and how do they develop? Most of these issues usually start in someone’s childhood. They’re rooted in the ways children bond with their adults in their early lives. For example, you might have experienced a parent who was there for you some days, but distant or distracted on others. As a result, you grew up uncertain about whether or not you could trust others. If you didn’t have a consistent, secure emotional foundation, you might struggle with forming similar bonds with your children. This inconsistency sometimes leads to approval seeking and a constant cry for reassurance (called anxious attachment). Alternatively, you could withdraw from emotional closeness (called avoidant attachment). There are also cases [...]

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How to Forgive in Marriage

How to Forgive in Marriage

Ronald Jenkins, Kate Motaung2025-06-13T06:40:03+00:00June 13th, 2025|Couples Counseling, Featured, Marriage Counseling, Relationship Issues, Spiritual Development|

Forgiveness may be one of the hardest things you will ever do in your marriage, especially when you have been hurt deeply and feel betrayed by the one you love. It’s a whole lot easier to stay angry, to keep a mental tally of wrongdoings, and let that root of bitterness fester in your soul. But do you know what? That anger you’re feeling doesn’t help you in any way. It doesn’t help your health, physically or mentally. It doesn’t help your emotions, and it certainly doesn’t help your marriage. It only weighs down your heart, clouding your relationship and keeping you stuck. Forgiveness doesn’t mean that you pretend that you weren’t hurt by what happened or that it didn’t happen at all. Forgiveness is about moving forward, letting go of anger, and finding healing together. Take, for example, Anna and Luke. They had been married for almost ten years, and recently, their marriage had been on the rocks. The tipping point came when Luke made a comment at a family gathering that deeply hurt Anna. It wasn’t the first time he’d said something carelessly, but this time, it felt like too much. Anna was furious. For weeks, every time they talked, she brought it up, lashing out in anger, even when Luke tried to apologize. Anna wasn’t just angry about that one comment. It was the accumulation of years of hurt, misunderstandings, and unspoken resentment. As she worked through the complicated emotions, Anna realized something important. She realized that she had been holding onto her anger because she felt like it was the only way she could protect herself. The problem was that her anger was not just about building a wall to protect herself. It was building a wall between her and Luke. She had walls that he [...]

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6 Keys to Improve Communication in a Relationship

6 Keys to Improve Communication in a Relationship

Ronald Jenkins, Kate Motaung2025-11-20T13:05:24+00:00June 6th, 2025|Couples Counseling, Featured, Marriage Counseling, Relationship Issues|

Is there anything simpler, and at the same time possibly more complicated than two people talking? Two people communicating with one another is the basis of a relationship, whether they are using their mouths or hands to express their meaning. The way the Lord designed us, we aren’t a race of mind readers. This necessitates finding ways to express our fears, hopes, needs, and expectations. We must improve communication – it is a vital skill to master in all areas of life. If you’re in a relationship with someone, knowing how to communicate your meaning to them is a boon for that relationship. You can avoid unnecessary misunderstandings, know how best to love your beloved, and quickly get to the heart of disagreements if your communication skills are on point. We all could use some brushing up and learning a few tips to help improve communication in our relationships. Obstacles to Good Communication It’s important to say from the start that people aren’t intentionally bad communicators. No one wants to be misunderstood and to cause avoidable friction in their relationships. No one wants to be unhappy or to make the people in their lives unhappy because of their words. Often, these things happen quite contrary to our desires. There are some obstacles to good communication that we may need greater awareness of. Some things that can stand in the way of good communication include unaddressed feelings like hurt, fear, or anger. These can prevent honest and open communication, leading instead to defensiveness, making assumptions about the other person and their state of mind, and leaning into our biases and prejudices. However, making assumptions and being biased can’t always be blamed on unaddressed feelings. Apart from these internal challenges, good communication can also be hindered by external factors. These include [...]

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