Loss comes to everyone in this life at some point. This may be something as simple as an unfulfilled expectation at the one end of the spectrum, to the death of a loved one at the other. Although grief is a normal reaction to loss, it can be tough to navigate alone. A person can be left feeling isolated or trapped.

Rockwall Christian Counseling in Texas offers professional, Bible-based help for anyone facing loss, who may be struggling with grief. These Christian grief counselors in Rockwall, Texas will walk with you through the process as you move toward hope and healing.

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What Does Grief Look Like?

Grief can take can look different depending on the person. Behaviors that you might encounter are:

  • Trouble concentrating
  • Honoring the memory of a loved one
  • Throwing yourself into your job to distract from the grief
  • Failing to find meaning in life
  • Being angry with God
  • Spending time with other loved ones
  • Self-blame
  • Bouts of tears or laughter
  • Survivor’s guilt
  • Unsolicited sharing of feelings with others
  • Self-imposed isolation

Many of these behaviors are harmless and normal. Some can even be helpful, such as showing honor to the memory of your loved one and, within reason, throwing yourself into work to distract from the grief. However, some are unhealthy, such as survivor’s guilt, or self-imposed isolation.

Are you engaged in unhealthy behaviors or attitudes related to grief? If so, the professionals at Rockwall Christian Counseling are here to help. They have been trained to help you identify negative behavior patterns and move through the grief process to find light at the other end.

In the 1960s, psychiatrist Elisabeth Kübler-Ross developed what has come to be known as the five stages of grief during her work with terminally ill patients. These stages include:

Denial: Refusal to accept the loss

Anger: Anger that is typically directed toward the person who has died. Anger may even be directed against God.

Bargaining: Making a kind of deal with oneself, the person who has died, or even God to try to ameliorate the consequences of the loss.

Depression: The realization that one is helpless to undo the loss can bring depression.

Acceptance: Coming to terms with the grief and moving on

The so-called “stages of grief” are not hard-and-fast categories since grieving is highly individual. While general tendencies can sometimes be detected during the grieving process, it is an overstatement to call them stages. Referring to them as stages suggests anyone whose grief doesn’t conform to the pattern is abnormal.

Though the grieving process may resemble the five stages of grief, it can vary. David B. Feldman has pointed out, “When any of us loses someone we love, we may find that we fit the stages precisely as Kubler-Ross outlined, or we may skip all but one. We may race through them or drag our feet all the way to acceptance. We may even repeat or add stages that Kubler-Ross never dreamed of. In fact, the actual grief process looks a lot less like a neat set of stages and a lot more like a roller coaster of emotions.”

This does not mean that grief never follows the stages of grief, but merely that they are not a hard-and-fast plan that you follow. In other words, a person is not doing it ‘wrong’ if their grief does not conform to the pattern.

In addition, our grief is always before God, so we should always seek to bring honor and glory to Him. Even in grief, God is near. The therapists at Rockwall Christian Counseling can help you draw closer to the Creator of all things who alone can give rest.

The Christian grief counselors at Rockwall Christian Counseling will come alongside you when you are overcome with grief. If you are struggling to overcome debilitating depression, negative thoughts, or unhealthy behavior, they are there for you. We offer group, family, and individual grief therapy for anyone wrestling with grief, as well as trauma counseling in the case of losses as a result of traumatic events.

If you are struggling in the grieving process, contact Rockwall Christian Counseling today at (972) 694-0137 or visit us online at Rockwall Christian Counseling and view our counselor directory to help find a counselor who is a good fit for you.

Call us today to begin your journey to the other side of grief.

Reference:

“Why the Five Stages of Grief Are Wrong”, Feldman, David B., https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/supersurvivors/201707/why-the-five-stages-grief-are-wrong

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