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What Your ADHD Friends Want You to Know

What Your ADHD Friends Want You to Know

Stacy Davis, Kate Motaung2025-12-12T06:06:50+00:00December 12th, 2025|ADHD/ADD, Featured, Individual Counseling, Relationship Issues|

A surprising number of people of all ages are undiagnosed with ADHD. This means that, whether you know it or not, you probably have friends and family members who are neurodivergent. People with ADHD often struggle with time management, memory, prioritizing tasks, being impulsive, and being unfocused or easily distracted. When you don’t understand why your friend is acting in these ways, it can cause a rift in the relationship. It takes time, patience, and education to learn how to cope with ADHD. People with the disorder need compassionate friends who will stand by them through the ups and downs of dealing with being neurodivergent. Here are some things that your friends with ADHD might want you to know. They aren’t lazy If you have ever wondered why your friend’s house is always a mess, or why their personal hygiene leaves a lot to be desired, it could be because ADHD makes everyday tasks feel overwhelming. Your neurotypical brain can look around a messy room and conceptualize a series of tasks that can be done. You can easily say that first, the clutter needs to be cleared from the surfaces, and then, the floors need to be swept and mopped. However, the ADHD brain cannot process each of these steps in order. A simple set of tasks for you is an overwhelming obstacle for your neurodivergent friend. What you might not know is that your ADHD friend is embarrassed or ashamed of the state of their house, car, or hygiene. They can’t help feeling overwhelmed by all of the tasks they have to do, easy or unintimidating tasks for neurotypical people. They might appreciate a friend who comes alongside them and helps them develop a simple routine for housework or hygiene. Helping them in this way could be a [...]

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Getting Therapy for Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder

Getting Therapy for Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder

Amanda Osowski, Kate Motaung2025-12-04T07:07:16+00:00December 4th, 2025|Featured, Individual Counseling, Trauma|

Our bodies are designed and function in an amazing way. They help us to adapt to a wide range of situations and experiences, and we can operate even under hostile conditions. This means that we are quite resilient and can cope with enormous pressures. However, being resilient is not the same thing as being invincible. Our bodies and minds do take strain and can be overwhelmed in their ability to cope well. Many life circumstances can affect a person’s well-being, and some of these can significantly diminish a person’s enjoyment of life. Not only that, but their ability to perform daily functions can be significantly hampered by these experiences. One way that this happens is the result of post-traumatic stress disorder. What is post-traumatic stress disorder? It may not be a given in every situation, but after a person has witnessed or experienced a traumatic event, they could find themselves struggling with post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). Post-traumatic stress disorder is a type of anxiety disorder that can occur after a deeply threatening or scary event. Even if you didn’t directly experience it, the shock of what happened can make it hard for you to continue living a normal life. PTSD is a mental health condition that can affect a person’s mental, physical, social, and spiritual well-being, and if it is severe enough, it can interfere with their ability to function well in daily life. PTSD can affect anyone, regardless of their age, gender, or cultural background. The good news is that it can be treated with psychotherapy and medications. It is not always the case that when a person experiences a traumatic event, they will develop PTSD. Experiencing war, a natural disaster, a motor vehicle accident, terrorism, violent crime, or other similar events may lead to PTSD, but it is [...]

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Walking With a Loved One Through Delayed Grief

Walking With a Loved One Through Delayed Grief

Joel Thomas, Kate Motaung2025-12-03T06:03:11+00:00December 3rd, 2025|Featured, Grief Counseling, Individual Counseling|

Grief is a strange and often unpredictable thing. Grief may set in soon after you experience the loss of a loved one, leading you into a maze of emotions and thoughts about your loved one and what the loss means. In some instances, grief sets in before the loss takes place, and that’s called anticipatory grief. For various reasons, grief may also get delayed, only setting in weeks, months, or perhaps even years after the loss occurs. Grappling with Delayed Grief Delayed grief, which is also sometimes referred to as delayed bereavement or as postponed grief, is when the onset of the process of grief happens later and doesn’t take place or coincide with the loss itself. Delayed grief, when it eventually surfaces, is often overwhelming and intense. The flood of thoughts, emotions, and memories that had been held back burst the dam and come flooding in, making it an intense experience. Often, because of the myriad thoughts, emotions, and experiences that haven’t been processed, when delayed grief sets in, those unprocessed emotions that have accumulated over time may produce a disproportionate reaction. One’s reaction to the loss may seem disproportionate, and this can lead to distress and a sense of confusion for the bereaved and the people around them. Delayed grief has much the same symptoms as other forms of grief, and these include physical manifestations like disrupted sleep patterns, headaches, and physical pain, and changes in appetite. What could serve as a trigger for delayed grief surfacing are things such as anniversaries, milestones, and other significant dates that could serve as reminders of a loved one and of the loss. If a person experiences similar life events that mirror the circumstances in which the loss occurred, that can also trigger the delayed grief to manifest. Going through significant [...]

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What to Do If You’re in a Sexless Marriage

What to Do If You’re in a Sexless Marriage

Sandra Stein2025-11-27T06:16:26+00:00November 27th, 2025|Couples Counseling, Featured, Marriage Counseling, Relationship Issues|

There is no clear-cut definition of a sexless marriage. Some experts define it as having sexual intercourse ten or fewer times a year; others, as not having had sex for a year or longer. Can a sexless marriage be a happy one? It depends on the couple and their mutual desires and expectations. There is no right amount of sex in a marriage. Frequency is only a problem if the spouses have discordant levels of desire and one of them is dissatisfied. Intimacy is about more than sex. It includes sharing your feelings, holding hands, snuggling, or falling asleep in each other’s arms. A sexless marriage can be a happy one as long as both spouses share a deep emotional bond, communicate openly and honestly, feel connected and mutually satisfied with their relationship, and are both okay with their pattern of infrequent sex or none at all. Reasons for a Sexless Marriage Some of the most common reasons for a sexless marriage include aging, busy work schedules, having children, stress, illness, erectile dysfunction, hurt, anger, broken trust, lack of communication, or past trauma. What does the Bible say about sex and marriage? Sex is part of God’s plan for marriage. It is His gift to you, as a sign of your covenant union, and is meant to be an intimate, affirming, life-giving experience that unites you in a one-flesh relationship. It is designed to be one of the basic glues that hold a marriage together. When sex is withheld, it can strain your relationship and give rise to all kinds of doubts, concerns, and trust issues, and can lead to a breakdown in communication and emotional connection. The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority [...]

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The Importance of Godly Female Friendships

The Importance of Godly Female Friendships

Maria Yanez, Kate Motaung2025-11-25T07:19:48+00:00November 25th, 2025|Featured, Individual Counseling, Relationship Issues, Women’s Issues|

If you’re a woman, you’ve probably grown up watching examples of tightly bonded female friendships on television. These fictitious bonded pairs make having a bestie look appealing. You relax on your sofa watching Monica and Rachel unequivocally support each other, even through bizarre circumstances, and read the story of Anne Shirley and Diana Barry, whose bond spanned a lifetime. You’ve probably longed for a friendship like this, but finding a friend who will be with you through thick and thin, in good times and bad, isn’t as easy as it is on a television screen or in the pages of a book. As Christians, we shouldn’t be looking to these secular examples of friendship anyway, right? We should be looking for something different from our friendships than helping move a sofa up some stairs or forgiving someone when they accidentally get you drunk off currant wine. But as members of society, we have been conditioned to think that this cultural definition of friendship is the goal. We’ve been told that these examples are the ultimate showcase of true friendship. And while these examples of friendships are funny and heartwarming, a true godly friendship not only warms your heart but draws you closer to the keeper of your heart, God. Ruth and Naomi (Ruth 1-4) In the story of Ruth and Naomi, Ruth didn’t just stick it out with Naomi because it was convenient. No, she left behind everything familiar (homeland, security, and her culture) to walk with Naomi into the unknown. That’s not small talk over a frappe, but is self-sacrificing, ride or die loyalty that was rooted in faith in God. Their friendship was not just an emotional bond, but love in action. Ruth humbly gleaned the fields to provide for Naomi, showing her devotion to her through [...]

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4 Signs Your Husband May Be Having an Affair

4 Signs Your Husband May Be Having an Affair

Ronald Jenkins, Kate Motaung2025-11-22T07:47:11+00:00November 24th, 2025|Couples Counseling, Featured, Individual Counseling, Infidelity and Affairs, Marriage Counseling, Relationship Issues|

Infidelity in marriage can have devastating consequences for both spouses in the marriage. If you suspect that your husband may be having an affair, there are signs to look for. By paying attention to their behaviors, you may be able to stop an affair from happening and devastating your marriage. 4 Signs Your Husband May Be Having an Affair If you see one of these suggested behaviors below, it’s essential to say something and express your concerns to prevent your suspicions from becoming a reality. Please don’t wait until it’s too late. Here are four signs your husband may be having an affair. Secretive Texts If your husband is texting secretly or becoming more possessive about his phone or whereabouts, he may be having an affair. Another sign your husband may be keeping secrets about whom he’s texting is if notifications do not pop up on this phone. If your husband once had notifications that would pop up and you could see who texted him, but now you can’t, that may be a sign that he doesn’t want you to know those to whom he’s talking. If you find this is the case, ask him point-blank to whom he’s talking. If he is elusive or you suspect he’s lying, ask to see his phone. Check any suspicious numbers or names that seem foreign to you. While there should be trust in every relationship, if you suspect the person is acting differently than usual, it may be best to ask the question and see how they respond. Couples who have been together a long time know when the other person is lying. If the husband does not let you see the phone, this will confirm suspicions that something is up, and he is hiding something. Give them consequences for their actions [...]

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5 Ways to Increase Teamwork in Marriage

5 Ways to Increase Teamwork in Marriage

Joseph Bennett, Kate Motaung2025-11-24T05:37:54+00:00November 24th, 2025|Couples Counseling, Featured, Marriage Counseling, Relationship Issues|

Marriage requires teamwork. When a couple drifts apart due to conflict, differences in personality, or general busyness, it can become easier for them to become more individualistic in their marriage. The couple must work toward becoming a team to deal with whatever life throws at them. This also helps reduce the amount of conflict and the instances of divorce. Teamwork in marriage can be easier said than done. When personalities clash or two spouses are strong leadership types, it can be difficult for them to embrace teamwork. However, there are ways to increase teamwork in marriage that will celebrate their differences and embrace each other’s traits to create a strong partnership in the present and future. 5 Ways to Increase Teamwork in Marriage Here are five ways to increase teamwork in marriage: Pray One of the primary activities a Christian couple should do is pray together regularly. Even if a couple has not been used to praying with each other regularly, there’s no time like the present. In prayer, a couple can bring requests, struggles, and difficulties to God. Prayer promotes intimacy and trust in both parties as they pray for each other. When a couple acknowledges God as the Lord of their marriage, it increases the likelihood of success. God wants couples to be happy in their marriage and embrace their different roles. Although Ephesians 5 talks about the husband being the head and the woman being submissive, it also talks about the importance of submitting to Christ. When both parties submit to Christ and yield their lives to his will, they will embrace teamwork and become more united as a team. Submission is a vital element for both parties to adopt in marriage. The husband sacrificially loves the wife, the wife submits to the husband, and both [...]

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Communication Coaching Tips for Introverts to Lead Successful Teams

Communication Coaching Tips for Introverts to Lead Successful Teams

Grace Mavindidze2025-10-30T05:55:05+00:00October 30th, 2025|Coaching, Featured, Individual Counseling, Personal Development, Professional Development|

Being a good leader doesn’t mean you have to be the loudest person in the room. If you know that you’re an introvert, then you probably feel like you’re always fighting to get a word in edgewise during every busy, noisy gathering. You may also find it difficult to offer your own ideas in meetings, feel drained after talking with others, or struggle to connect with your team. If that’s you, then yes, you are by definition an introvert. People like you do well when it comes to listening and thoughtful communication, which makes you more likely to be good at building trust and understanding with others. Those are the makings of a good team leader right there. With the right kind of communication coaching, you can learn how to use your natural strengths to lead effectively. Whether your dream is to manage a project, run a club, or lead a small church group, there are some great professional communication tips you can use to become the leader you’re meant to be. What is Communication Coaching? Some people think communication coaching is only for those who struggle to speak in front of others. But it’s much more than that and is a great backing for anyone who wants to improve how they connect with others. It covers all kinds of communication, from speaking clearly to reading body language or just managing tough conversations. It’s also not just for people with big jobs either, but students, job seekers, and anyone looking to build better social skills is able to learn a lot from coaching. Introverts sometimes feel they aren’t fit to be leaders because they’re not as talkative or outgoing as extroverts. Yet, it is your nature, with calm and thoughtful approaches to everything you do, that builds respect and [...]

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Coping with Divorce with the Help of Christian Counseling

Coping with Divorce with the Help of Christian Counseling

Maria Yanez, Kate Motaung2025-10-16T05:56:02+00:00October 16th, 2025|Featured, Individual Counseling, Relationship Issues|

Few people say “I do” with the idea that it is a temporary commitment. Our world does a great job of selling us a highly romanticized view of love and marriage, but not often do we see the more challenging reality of what marriage entails, leaving many unprepared for this lifelong commitment. In his book, Sacred Marriage, Gary Thomas points to this reality, stating, “...marriage reminds us of the daily reality of living as sinful human beings in a radically broken world. We aspire after love but far too often descend into hate and apathy.” And unfortunately, many madly in love end in divorce. Divorce is particularly hated among Christian crowds who are passionately against the idea of breaking a commitment, especially one before God and one that has been consummated. Despite all the sticky entanglements involved, people are still coping with divorce. Or in some cases, not coping well with it. It’s ideal and biblical to remain married. The commitment of marriage is a sacred, enduring bond between two people designed to reflect God’s love and covenant with His people. Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her. – Ephesians 5:25 In the best circumstances, marriage is a beautiful union, meant to last a lifetime, just like you vowed on that special day. The Bible speaks clearly to the importance of faithfulness, love, and perseverance in marriage. It instructs husbands and wives to support, honor, and cherish each other through all circumstances (even in-laws, late-night feedings, and a stack of bills). Jesus Himself reminds us in Matthew 19:6 that “What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate.” That said, the road to a successful, lifelong marriage is not always smooth. You’re human, and so is your spouse (you probably already [...]

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Why Unconventional Trauma Responses Are Not Silly

Why Unconventional Trauma Responses Are Not Silly

Amanda Osowski, Kate Motaung2025-10-11T06:47:43+00:00October 13th, 2025|Featured, Individual Counseling, Trauma|

Trauma responses that are a little outside of the “norm” often get made fun of or dismissed. What might feel silly to someone else might be your body remembering how it had to survive in a tense or dangerous situation. People might brush off your unusual actions with a roll of their eyes or even a chuckle, but those quirky little things you do might be more than just unique personality traits. They might be signs that you have unresolved trauma in your life and that your body is fighting desperately to protect you from perceived threats. Our bodies respond to trauma in different ways that show up uniquely to us. Maybe your hands sweat every time you hear your phone ding with a notification. While that might seem odd and a gross overreaction to those around you, it might be a learned response because your boss only texts when they are angry. Your friends might giggle a little when you get visibly angry at them for using your full name, but to you, it serves as a reminder of parents who spewed it out just before a verbal storm. The World’s View on “Silly” Trauma Responses The people around you might be critical or cruel about behavior they consider to be odd or different. Society as a whole can be harsh to those who suffer from trauma they do not understand and in ways they do not view as normal. If you did not grow up in a war zone or with obvious signs of abuse, people tend to assume you should be just fine to act in a way that fits their definition of normal. But what if you suffered years of emotional neglect, chronic bullying, or having to be the adult kid taking care of younger siblings? [...]

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