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Burdened and Burned Out: Real Time Strategies For Stress Management

Burdened and Burned Out: Real Time Strategies For Stress Management

By Rockwall Christian Counseling|2024-08-31T06:57:10+00:00August 29th, 2024|Anger Issues, Depression, Featured|

People often use the phrase, “God won’t put more on you than you can bear.” It isn’t a scripture, but it’s often quoted to console ourselves when inundated with life’s stressors. Sometimes, it isn’t God so much as it is us. We are the ones who heap more onto our plates than we can manage. We bite off more than we can chew and become overwhelmed by the mounting pressures faced in our most meaningful roles and significant responsibilities. Our attempts to keep up with the demands of other people, and commitments between family, work, and other areas can launch us into an anxious frenzy. Whether it is trying to meet everyone’s needs with an individually sized portion of strength, energy, and time, we can find ourselves worried and stressed. It is likely more taxing for us to compete with our own notions of what we think will satisfy the people in our lives than what they may actually want and truly need. It is the on-ramp to burnout. When we find our minds accelerating with our lives and heartbeats, it may be time to pump the brakes and pull over to rest and regroup. Stress has often been referred to as a silent killer. It stealthily slips in when good intentions and high expectations meet. We commit to a set of standards that outpace what we can reasonably manage with the time and other resources at our disposal. Sometimes, it emerges from others, but often we add or adopt them as our own responsibility. Overcommitted and overextended, our schedules burst with a calendar full of agreements that seem difficult to rescind. Stress and Shame If we have had a history of high performance or closeted perfectionism, canceling our commitment to our ideals and expectations can make us [...]

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Bible Verses about Anger: Dealing with Anger the Godly Way

Bible Verses about Anger: Dealing with Anger the Godly Way

By Ronald Jenkins|2024-08-22T12:22:31+00:00August 20th, 2024|Anger Issues, Coaching, Featured, Individual Counseling, Relationship Issues, Spiritual Development|

Anger is a complex human emotion. It is as normal as laughing or crying, yet its effects, although potentially beneficial, can be quite damaging. Anger normally arises from provocation, frustrations, and other triggers like stress, mental health issues, or environmental influences. When anger is expressed constructively and with control, solutions to conflicts can be found, wrongs can be made right, and healthy boundaries set. On the other hand, uncontrolled anger may lead to negative outcomes such as depression, anxiety, severed relationships, extreme violence, and harmful behavior. People express their anger in varying degrees, some to the point of physically harming others or cutting ties with loved ones. Is anger ever justified? Before we explore ways of dealing with anger, let us first consider if it is even acceptable for us as Christians to be angry. In the book of John (2:13-17), we witness Jesus Christ, the epitome of love, compassion, patience, and grace, getting extremely angry because the money changers and merchants had turned the temple courts into a marketplace. In His anger, the Bible says Jesus overturned tables and chased the transgressors from the temples because they had brought chaos into the house of God. In Nehemiah 5:6, we hear Nehemiah, another great biblical figure, admitting to being “very angry” when he learned of the exploitation and oppression of the poor. Some of the poor people were even forced by their circumstances to sell their children to pay exorbitant taxes. The rest of the book shows how Nehemiah proceeded to boldly confront the nobles and the officials. He rebuked them for the oppression of the poor Jews and demanded that they put an end to it. They listened to Nehemiah and agreed to put an end to the oppressive practices. Nehemiah’s anger was the much-needed catalyst that helped [...]

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Teaching Your Child How to Control Anger Well

Teaching Your Child How to Control Anger Well

By Rockwall Christian Counseling|2024-03-18T15:33:43+00:00March 18th, 2024|Anger Issues, Christian Counseling for Children, Christian Counseling For Teens, Family Counseling, Featured|

When a child is born, they have a lot of things to figure out about themselves and the world around them. Everything, from moving about to eating, to playing, to communicating with others must all be learned. Another important part of what a child needs to learn is how to experience and express their emotions well, especially learning to control anger. Being able to regulate and express one’s emotions well has a positive impact on relationships and personal well-being. One of the key tasks of a parent or caregiver is to help a child understand their own emotions and to know what the most appropriate ways of expressing those emotions are. Much of this happens in the early, formative years of the child, though we are always growing and learning how to do better. Reasons children get angry When the words “temper tantrum” are uttered, more likely than not, the image that pops into our heads is a flailing, screaming child in the grocery store or park. Parents often wonder if their child’s behavior is normal, and they can find themselves thinking long and hard about what they can do to help their child. Younger children, below the age of four, can have multiple tantrums in a week. These can include kicking, crying, stomping, and pushing. As a child grows older, they ought to outgrow this behavior. There are many reasons a child gets angry, including the following: Family dysfunction and parenting styles A harsh parenting style that does not consider the child’s needs and personality, or parenting that is inconsistent can lead to a child exhibiting anger and aggression. Genetics This and other biological factors can play a role in a child displaying anger and aggression. Frustration Like any adult, children can get angry when their expectations and [...]

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3 Signs of Anger Issues

3 Signs of Anger Issues

By Rockwall Christian Counseling|2023-07-06T12:21:32+00:00January 3rd, 2023|Anger Issues, Featured, Individual Counseling|

Occasional irritation or frustration – even anger over a relationship issue from time to time – is probably normal, but how do you know whether what you are experiencing anger issues? Anger issues can be expressed in three ways: Outwardly: expressions of anger directed toward others. Examples of outward anger include yelling, smashing objects, or slamming doors. Inwardly: expressions of anger usually directed toward oneself. Examples include berating yourself and self-harm. Indirectly: passive expressions of anger. Examples of indirect expressions include sulking, sarcasm, or being silent to show your anger. Anger issues may be very tough to distinguish from just generally feeling angry. While it may be normal, anger, like any other emotion, may be sinful or righteous, depending on what has motivated it, its appropriateness to the situation, or its expression (to give a few examples). Also, it is well to remember that no emotion, no matter how good, is ever unstained by our sin. However, when anger begins to feel like it’s your primary characteristic or disrupts work or relationships, this may signal anger issues. To know if you are dealing with something more than intermittent frustration or anger, it’s important to look at four things: how frequently you get angry, what causes your anger, how you respond to anger, and how anger impacts your thought processes. How frequently do you get angry? There is no fixed rule on the number of times you’re allowed to be angry, but understanding how anger can be provoked is important. Knowing what anger looks like may reveal that you’re angrier more often than you thought. You might be angry more often than you realize if you are frequently irritable, frustrated, or internally restless. The other way to know if you are angry more often than not is to look at [...]

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