williaml

There’s a good chance that misunderstandings and wrong beliefs are causing many struggles you might be having in your relationship, you have about yourself, your partner, and other people. It’s common for people to have a biased way of thinking without even realizing that they are in the wrong. It’s only when someone shows them with practical examples that they can begin to realize how skewed their beliefs have been. These misconceptions and incorrect beliefs are called thought distortions, and they are behind many of the issues people have in relationships. A thought distortion is like a lens on a camera. When placed on a camera, a lens will distort or enhance reality in different ways, making everything seem broader, darker, or exaggerating small details to seem enormous. Similarly, sometimes people see the world through a lens that distorts reality. They see the ordinary things others see as malicious and hurtful, and they focus on minor issues until they become big deals while ignoring other information. When you understand which lens or thought distortion you are viewing the world through, you can begin to challenge your point of view and change the way you think about yourself and your loved ones. Examples of Thought Distortions There is a small list of thought distortions, and each one has been named. This is to make it easier to identify and label the exact thought distortion you have been affected by, so that you can begin challenging it. You may have been viewing life through multiple lenses, but it is also possible to identify and challenge each one. Perhaps you draw broad conclusions about people based on one interaction. Let’s say that your partner forgot about your birthday, and you concluded that they no longer care about you or the relationship anymore. [...]